My Role in the Family
The family is the most important basic unit of society where each member has a vital role to play in successfully raising productive, law-abiding citizens. In a family of four siblings, I am the eldest. As the oldest child at home, I have multiple duties and responsibilities that mirror and support those of the parents, especially the one who stays at home to take care of the children and conduct various household chores. Since women mostly do these kinds of jobs, I can say that my role is to become the second mother particularly when both parents are away to earn a living. In generally, my role is to help my parents take care of my siblings, conduct household duties, and become a good model to the younger ones.
Being the eldest means taking the role of childcare to some extent. When my parents are busy while I am not, I must look over my siblings. For instance, when my mother is doing the laundry, I should make sure that I can take care of my siblings. Usually, we stay in one room either to do our schoolwork or recreational activities like watching the television or doing art projects. Furthermore, when we are at the mall and my parents are focused on shopping, I do not let my siblings be out of my sight, not for one second. I already watched too many videos of parents crying because they lost their children after being distracted for a few seconds or minutes and promised to myself that I shall avoid the same mistake. For my young siblings, like those two years old and below, I also help them eat and change their clothes. Nanny duties are normal to me as the oldest child.
Besides ensuring the safety and well-being of my siblings, I perform household duties as well. My mother works as a call center agent, so she barely has time to sleep. Since sleep is important to long life, I make sure that I do some of her duties as much as possible in order for her to get more sleep. I started sweeping the floor when I was four years old and proceeded to washing and drying the dishes at the age of six. At nine years old, I cooked meals, including rice, and fried meats of all kinds. I could also already operate the washing machine and fold the laundry. In many of these activities, my siblings already participate so I supervise how we do different chores. I observe if they are doing them correctly and guide them accordingly. I like how we learn basic life skills of cleaning and cooking together.
Finally, as the eldest, I must also serve as a good role model to my siblings. I show them what it means to be a good child by being obedient to our parents and respectful to the elderly. Likewise, I exhibit the characteristics of a good student. If I want them to excel in their studies, I must lead the way. I do my assignments before playing with my toys or doing sports. I also read widely and frequently whether they are our textbooks or novels. My siblings can see how I work hard and love learning; subsequently, they mimic my attitudes and behaviors. I am not saying I am perfect because I have many flaws including being impatient and preferring to be an introvert as much as possible. Nevertheless, as the oldest child, I endeavor to become the kind of person whom I want my siblings to become someday too, especially in terms of attitudes and abilities.
My role in the family is quite challenging but I love it. To be a good eldest, I support my parents in doing their chores and duties. I am like a mother and a father with household responsibilities particularly when they are either away or too busy to attend to us. Sometimes, I get tired from all these tasks I do each day and would rather rest or play, but at the end of the day, I am thankful to become the eldest. I find happiness and fulfillment in taking care of my siblings because, like any other parent, I love them more than my life and to serve them unconditionally is part of my idea of a life worth living.